Soulmate Mini-Series Part II: Attracting Your Soulmate Through Self-Love
“If both of you don't add anything to your mutual growth and progression, if you don’t respect the nobility of each other’s individuality and freedom, then you’re wasting the privilege of having found each other.”
“The Buddhists say if you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak, that’s not the one. When you meet your ‘soul mate’ you’ll feel calm. No anxiety, no agitation.
- Monica Drake
I’ve come across this frequently circulated quote a few times, but I decided to do some research into its authenticity. I know it's a line in Drake’s book, Clown Girls: A Novel, but I'm not sure if the Buddha ever propagated this. What I do know with a comparatively greater degree of confidence is that self-love is a core tenet of Buddhism. The faith asserts that you can travel the world in search of someone to love more than yourself, and that person’s nowhere to be found.
In fact, all faiths/belief systems, through their various teachings, eventually zero in on self-realisation/love as the ‘master key’. With self-realisation comes:
- Understanding and self-acceptance.
- The ability to be self-compassionate in a fearless way.
- The capacity to love another person with lesser strings attached, or none at all, if that’s possible. Such a love is liberating, and only appreciated – and reciprocated – by someone equally self-aware.
This self-reconciled person could be your soulmate. Even then, if both of you don't add anything to your mutual growth and progression, if you don’t respect the nobility of each other’s individuality and freedom, then you’re wasting the privilege of having found each other.
Drawing from the spiritual/metaphysical schools of thought, here’s a crisp PoA to attract your soulmate:
- Keep a low profile when you’re indulging in some serious internal ‘stock-taking’.
- Work out affirmations to improve your physical, mental, social, and professional wellbeing.
- Be grateful. For everything. It’s easy to forget, and easier to take for granted. So, at the very least, whenever you receive good news/encounter a positive development in any area of life, take a moment to give thanks to the Universe, your God, or whatever you believe in.
- Begin to depend on this PoA to ‘radiate’ confidence, positivity, and a zest for your own life.
Be honest, diligent, and disciplined about this. You never know when, and where, you might be presented with the result of the energies you exude. The personification of your subconscious ‘brewing’, your soulmate, is sometimes hiding in plain sight. Be mindful!