Can You Have Sex During Pregnancy?
It is natural for the parents-to-be to be scared of harming the baby during sex. But the truth is, you don’t have to sacrifice intimacy for the well-being of your child.To do or not to do?
Sex during pregnancy has been a topic of debate for years. It’s quite understandable for expecting parents to be apprehensive about sex, worrying that it would harm the baby; often sacrificing their own pleasure, forgetting their own desires for the sake of the baby. The lack of intimacy for nine months of pregnancy, and for another few months till the new mother heals from childbirth, can lead to pent-up frustration, and feelings of being apart, often ending in strained relationships. Hence, it’s high time that everyone, and not only parents-to-be, understand sex and intimacy during pregnancy. Because most people understand sex enough to get pregnant, but do not understand pregnancy enough to have sex. Catching my drift here?
I’m going to keep this crisp. Sex during pregnancy is safe, unless advised otherwise by your gynaecologist.
- The foetus is protected sternly by the amniotic fluid in the womb, as well as the uterine muscles – which, by the way, are pretty strong.
- Now, there’s this miraculous thing called the mucous plug in the cervix that separates the amniotic sac and the uterus from the rest of the world. So, it might hurt a man’s ego when I say this, but God hasn’t made a penis so big (no matter how many inches we’re talking), that can pass the plug and reach all the way to the baby. Nah uh.
- Having said that, remember that in case you’re with a different partner, or are not in a monogamous relationship, it’s always best to get your partner and yourself checked for sexually transmitted diseases. Better safe than sorry.
Always listen to your doctor. Your physician may ask you to refrain from sex, if:
- You have a history of preterm labour, or are at a risk of one.
- You have cervical weakness, or a low-lying placenta.
- You’re experiencing vaginal bleeding, or have a history of miscarriage.
Here are a few tips you should keep in mind while having sex during pregnancy:
- A little bleeding after sex, especially in the first trimester, is supposed to be normal, but you should still report it to your gynaecologist.
- Always use a condom and change condoms if switching from anal to vaginal sex, to keep pathogens out of the vagina, and to avoid STDs and other infections, even if you are monogamous.
- Respect the woman’s comfort. If sex is uncomfortable for her, try different positions and if that doesn’t seem to help, then focus on other intimacy techniques like cuddling, or just foreplay.
For your quick reference, here are a few pregnancy sex positions that are easy, safe, and comfortable for both the partners:
- Woman on top – This one is self-explanatory.
- Spooning – Lying side by side, with the man behind. This is generally a very comfortable position, as it makes for shallow penetration.
- Bedside missionary – The woman lying on the edge of the bed with knees slightly folded up, feet resting on the edge. This is classic missionary without the man’s weight on the woman.
- Bending over – Umm, well, this is tough to explain, but imagine this – the woman bends over a couch, resting on it with her hands, while the man thrusts from behind. Modified doggy style, if you will.
What about after the delivery? Well, the doctor will be the best person to answer that for you, but this is usually the period for total abstinence, while the woman’s cervix closes slowly, uterus returns to its position, and any injuries after delivery heal. It could take anything between 4-10 weeks, but don’t forget to spend this ‘U-rated’ time with your partner just like the good early days of dating, and spoil them with love!