Don’t Say That I’m Falling: 5 Weird Signs You’re In A Great Relationship
“It’s not the matches that count, but the mismatches; not fortunes, but misfortunes...and how you both react to, and work through it.” Quit wondering if you both are good enough to be a couple – I say if you’re weird, you’re gooood.
Not all relationships are the same. In fact, even two relationships of the same person are vastly different! So, it’s straight impossible to put down criteria that say – hey, your perfectly normal relationship is crap (or not), because he’s a dog person and you have 3 cats; or because she loves milkshake and you’re lactose-intolerant. But despite all that, there isn’t a dearth of articles that say you’re a great couple if you have qualities that read like a dictionary of virtues (find alphabetically arranged) – “accepting, benevolent, compassionate, dependable, empathetic, forbearing, gentle, helpful, innocent, just, kind, liberal, modest, obedient, patient, responsible, selfless, tolerant, understanding, vital, wise, zealous”. Poof! Who could ever make sense of that?! I do feel, however, that it’s not the matches that count, but the mismatches; not fortunes, but misfortunes...and how you both react to, and work through it. On that note, I’m going to list down a few veritably weird signs you should watch out for, that should be considered very promising.
Both of you hate being together 24*7 – Wait, what? Aren’t people in love supposed to be together ALL THE TIME, like the elephants in the Fevicol brand logo? Nope. It’s actually completely normal to want to be on your own for a few hours a day. Love can be overwhelming, fellas. Give each other a break!
You’ve seen/heard each other do disgusting things, and it’s okay – Then be it the fart that was supposed to be on vibrate mode but came out on ringer, or the diarrhea that echoed in the entire neighbourhood. Not only did your partner take it in great stride, but also apologised to the neighbours for watching that documentary – ‘Diarrhea and other tropical diseases’, on high volume.
You do not think alike...at all! – If you understand that you’re two individuals who do not think alike at all, that’s fine – because it just gives you more perspectives on things. Because if you wanted someone like yourself, you should’ve volunteered for cloning experiments in Slovenia. History has witnessed the fieriest romances (think Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton) that have had two polar opposites together. They may/may not have worked out for various reasons, but that makes it no less solid.
It’s constant warfare – You bet on things and the loser gets to admit that the other person was right (which is worse than most punishments); you have playful fights/serious fights/playful fights that lead to serious fights. You also pull pranks on each other and go a little too far sometimes, just to prove your point. It’s okay. Normal is the new DEAD. Extra points if you’ve accidentally broken your SO’s nose/hand/leg etc., and that hasn’t gotten them to hate you. Nothing like a fracture to bring two people closer.
You almost love their quirks and fixations – There are things that your partners may love more than you, and it’s all right. A little jealousy is healthy. For example, I’m jealous of my SO’s iPad and one day, it might go missing without a trace. That is, until he calls the iPad stupid and tells me I’m the best. It’s the little differences, these little games that keep a relationship throbbing. And let’s not forget how much you get to learn, because when you’re with a person for long, you tend to pick a good habit or two.