5 Things You Should Stop Believing About Sex If You Are A Woman
Women in India most often have a raw deal when it comes to sex; growing up, they are told that they should not have sex with anyone and everyone as they will be considered ‘loose and unladylike’.Women in India most often have a raw deal when it comes to sex; growing up, they are told that they should not have sex with anyone and everyone as they will be considered ‘loose and unladylike’. As they grow older and get married they are often taught that they should put a man’s pleasure before theirs and focus on his needs rather than their own. Also, no matter how bad the sex is, they should soldier on, as it is their duty to keep their husband fulfilled. But times have changed, and as women take charge of various aspects of their life, attitudes to sex are also changing. Women need to stop believing in all the hogwash that has been traditionally doled out to them.
Here we bust some popular beliefs about Sex:
Porn is for men, not women
As one grapples with traditional roles, there is a belief that porn was created for the pleasure of men, not women. Wrong. There are lots of women who enjoy watching certain kinds of porn; so if you are interested in turning up the heat in your relationship or marriage and feel that porn could press the right buttons don’t be afraid to give it a go. You even suggest that you and your partner watch some exciting porn together to get things started.
Just do it
All sex does not boil down to penetration. While many people believe that vaginal penetration is the only way to enjoy sex, they couldn’t be farther off the mark. In younger, modern relationships, vaginal sex is one aspect of the entire experience and one that is often part of a rather elaborate menu. As a woman, it is okay to want more foreplay and enjoy rather than the actual act of having sex. So make sure you explain the same to your partner and don’t just limit yourself to the actual act of intercourse.
The libido question
Many women feel that they have low libido since they don’t enjoy sex and are often not turned on during the act. They couldn’t be further from the truth. Just because someone is unable to press the right buttons and turn you on doesn’t mean that the problems lie with you. Also, most women think that it is their duty to ensure that their partner ejaculates and feels complete at the end of the sex act. But the climax is not the destination for every act of sex; so sometimes if you don’t have an orgasm or your partner doesn’t don’t blame it on poor libido as there are a million other factors that could well contribute to the lack of an orgasm.
Don’t alter the pace
Many women are made to believe that if they alter the tempo while at it with their partner, he could lose the rhythm and the entire act could fall apart. Women need to stop thinking that the onus of good sex is on them. Most women have good and bad days, and sometimes one is just not up to having sex, no matter how much you love your partner. Women need to understand that it’s fine to feel that way and that even if they are in the middle of the sexual act and lose interest, there is no problem in being vocal and telling their partner that they need to slow down, even stop. He will (most often) appreciate the candour.
Sex is the same with all men
Just as no two people are the same, no two sexual experiences are alike. Women need to stop thinking that if they had bad sex with one man then that’s the norm and they will continue to have bad sex, no matter who the man is. Wake up and smell the coffee. If you are relatively unattached, allow yourself to experiment and experience sex with different people so that you can understand your body and your needs better and know what you want sexually when you finally get into a steady relationship.